9 Things I Did Before Having Babies

Posted by Abby Akin on

"What did I do with my time before having babies?"

This is something I often think about when I’m laying in bed going over the multiple lists in my head that need to be completed. Before my days became consumed with laundry, dirty dishes, and picking up toys, I had free time. Free time to get things done, very important things.

It's honestly comical to think about what I used to do before having babies. Talk about a stressful life. For your enjoyment but mostly for my own, here are some the activities that used to fill my time before babies…

#1 Working Out & Outfit Pairing

Worrying about what cute workout outfit I would wear to my group fitness class was something I took for granted before having babies. Nowadays there is no discrepancy between workout clothes and pajamas. Comfort is all I care about.

before having babies

#2 Watching Paint Dry (as in fingernail paint)

Painting my fingernails and having ample time for the paint to dry. Oh, and then moving to my toenails too. Yeah, I can’t remember the last time I even attempted this.

#3 Doing More Than A Mom Bun

Before having babies, I would spend a considerable amount of time contemplating how I would style my hair for the day. I could start with it straight, oh but then change my mind and curl it if I wanted to. These days I contemplate whether a shower is necessary? Eh, what’s one more day with the mom bun?

cooking before having babies

#4 Gourmet Meals

Cooking meals that take 45 minutes with fancy ingredients. No thank you! I need quick and easy. Gone are the days of gourmet kitchen cooking, mama needs to get ‘er done asap.

#5 Taking Endless Photos Of My Fur-Baby

Taking pictures and videos of my dog because she was my child, and heaven forbid me miss a moment of her fetching a ball or snuggling. I love my puppy, but its laughable and almost embarrassing the number of pictures and videos I used to have of Maple dog (No shame at all to you doggy parents! I used to be one myself.) I would bet money that I don’t have a single picture of my dog on my phone since I've had Millie. Sorry pup.

#6 Late-Night Movies

Going to the movies past 7pm. I shudder at the thought of this. Between the expense and the possibility of falling asleep in the theatre…Cuddling on the couch with my hubby in some gross old t-shirt and sweats is way better (and cheaper!)

#7 Long Period Of Mindless Browsing

Shopping for no apparent reason but to browse every isle. No need for a quick Target run; you got time! These days I weigh the options of if it’s necessary to go buy more toilet paper?

#8 Sleeping In

Before having babies, sleeping in and wasting the weekend was my FAVORITE thing to do. Sleeping in is no longer a thing, my child is literally my alarm clock at 7am every morning.

#9 Spontaneity

Taking spontaneous weekend trips. A four-hour drive, just for In-n-Out, no problem! Again, I shudder at this thought. “We need to leave around nap time so Millie will sleep in the car, oh and did you bring the sound machine and lamby, please tell me you didn’t forget Lamby!?” Gone are the days of actually enjoying a trip…these days I need a vacation from my vacation.


As I sit here and reminisce about these things that used to fill my time before having babies, I can’t help but think how nice it would be to go back and relive those moments but then I remember what I have now!

I'll my currently reality of animal crackers, stacking blocks and bath time over my before kid-free time any day! I know there are days I may feel differently, but today I choose messy motherhood over some fancy meal with freshly painted fingernails in my adorable workout outfit!

So, if you’re feeling like I do somedays, and you want is to go back to “before having babies dreamland” remember that you have been given a huge privilege and responsibility. What fills your time now matters way more than the free time that came before being a mom! 


Abby is a Mom and an amazing team member of Baja Baby. She lives in Colorado with her husband Alex, their beautiful daughter Amelia Grace, baby boy Amos Lee and Maple the dog. You can find Abby on Instagram by clicking here.

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